Well, Norm, here we are 65 years past birth; 50 years past our first contribution to our “so-called ‘social security’;” 45 years past marriage to the most exquisite woman on earth and moments past being declared “inconsequential” by our government and any generation under 50 years of age.
I never really thought it would come to this. I mean, I never really thought. We are now elders, you and I. Patted on the head like an old hound dog who’s slow of gate, barely hears and the family no longer notices because it’s too painful to watch a living thing change.
I thought I’d let you know, we passed our written exams and sat for our “orals” (with great stress) and finally earned our Doctorate in Medicare last month, thereby sending us out into the world of those 65 and older with that marvelous sense of confidence known only to a drunken Cossack on a cross-eyed horse. If we’d known there was going to be such a confusing, mind-blowing series of tests to qualify for 65, I think we’d have studied more in our 40′s.
How on earth did we get here, Dude? We grew up in the greatest time in America as the first tick-tock of the Baby Boom. American Graffiti told our high school story and Animal House bore no relation to the college we knew. The Eisenhower Generation imploded during those years. We had Camelot on one extreme and Kent State on the other. We found ourselves smack-dab in the middle wondering what to think because both held a view of life totally foreign to us.
Confusion remained the drug of choice for decades, but we lowered our head and dove into the line of scrimmage. For many who prided themselves, their work and their homes, the ensuing years were a cloud of dust. We knew what we wanted, where we were going and what it would look like when we got there. We’ve gotten most of what we wanted, the journey has had more interesting moments than we anticipated, but it doesn’t much look like what we thought it would. We found ourselves somewhere in those years when everyone was telling us to live for today, but we kept packing it away for tomorrow, just like our parents.
Our faith was met with challenges unknown by any previous generation. Centuries before our forefathers in the faith knew persecution, death and martyrdom. We had the Holocaust as a recent example of where faith can lead during the reign of despots and the criminally cruel. But our challenges were of a different sort entirely. Our generation knew the lavish aggrandizement of people of faith who were becoming more and more in control, richer and richer compared to the rest of the world. We went to bed with our bellies full and our minds filled with the sure “knowledge” that God was good to the good. Apathy toward our blessings made us feel deserving of them.
Our fellow journey-makers tripped-up, tripped-out and smoldered in the cauldron of “badness” and with each failure, each catastrophe, each shortened life, we knew we were the good people. The sixties and seventies left brothers and sisters broken and disheartened, but we were so self-reliant and successful, we couldn’t feel their pain, understand their frustration or anger. They chose all the wrong ways to tell their story. Some thirty years later we have a bit more understanding and realize we were all in this together. For years we’ve made friends with the radicals down the street who broker insurance, real estate and green initiatives.
Our brothers went off to war and came home broken, exhausted and bent. We had no idea how to hail them or thank them because confusion reigned from the Oval Office all the way down to boot camp. Some four decades later we are just beginning to welcome them home. Late in life we’ve discovered their sacrifices for us and their loyalty to their country.
It’s been a trip and a rip, hasn’t it, kid? Who knew we’d enjoy and succeed in three different occupations in 45 years? Who knew we’d escape almost all of the heartbreaking events that can visit a home? Who knew we’d have four kids instead of two? Who knew they’d bring us our highest heights and our lowest lows? Who knew they’d grow up so fast, so good and so worthwhile? Who knew family would become the crown jewel of our lives when, in the beginning, so many of our goals had to do with so many other things? All we knew, or hoped we knew, is we’d be together with Gorgeous until the end. So far, so good.
Standing here on the backside of the journey, we can only cast our eyes backward in amazement at what a good life it’s been. To see it all is to wish to live it again, but with the proviso that it be just like it was then. It’s not that we fear worse things could happen or better things might come along. No, it is the comforting truth of knowing it’s been good, so very, very good. We’d change nothing. Nothing.